The Fear of Missing out

This weekend we wrapped up our series on the weight of fear by talking about the fear of missing out (FOMO).  At first glance this doesn’t seem to be incredibly impactful.  I mean what’s the worst that could happen?

Let’s try that though experiment.  Imagine the worst possible outcome from a missed opportunity….  Got it?

OK, now make it twice as bad.

I have no idea what the scenario going on inside your head is right now, but what I do know is that the result, regardless of how terrible it is,  can’t compare to impact FOMO had in this passage of scripture.

Genesis 3:1-6

The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the Lord God had made. One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?”

2 “Of course we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,” the woman replied. 3 “It’s only the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden that we are not allowed to eat. God said, ‘You must not eat it or even touch it; if you do, you will die.’”

4 “You won’t die!” the serpent replied to the woman. 5 “God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it, and you will be like God, knowing both good and evil.”

6 The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. 7 At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves.

Adam and Eve believed that God was holding something back from them. There was something out there better than what they were currently experiencing.  They were missing out!

Adam and Eve’s rebellion against God’s one rule cost them EVERYTHING.

It cost them….Their home.

Their purpose

Their relationship with God

The other fears we have walked through in this series had costs associated with them.

The fear of failure can keep us from trying new things and opportunities.

The fear of bad things happening can cause us to insulate and isolate    ourselves.

The fear of inadequacy can keep us from understanding our God given potential and using it.

What these all have in common is that they hold us back.  This is bad.  Not good.

However, FOMO is much more dangerous because doesn’t hold us back…it propels us forward.  It launches us out in directions that can cost us everything.

The risky financial decision made because the window of opportunity is closing, and you don’t want to miss out on what everyone else is benefiting from.

The dating relationship has red flags all over the place, but you move forward because you are afraid you will never find anyone else and don’t want to spend your life alone.

The risky health decisions made for quick results because time is running out.

The business decision that you know is wrong but is a “standard practice” that everyone else uses to get ahead.

Jesus addresses this very issue.

Matthew 6:31-33

“So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ 32 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. 33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

Our focus is this passage rightly goes to the action step…’seek the Kingdom of God.’ But for the purpose of FOMO, lets pause on the phrase…’your heavenly Father already knows.’

God is all knowing.

We are afraid we are going to miss out.

God knows exactly what we need.  He knows the past, present and future.  He knows the big picture and the small details.  He knows how much food is in your house and exactly how long it will last. He knows your bank account balance and exactly how far your car can get on the gas that’s in its tank.  He knows your employer’s financial situation.  He knows how the business is going to go.  God knows everything.

It is from His character…who is He, ALL KNOWING, that He tells us not to worry.

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The Weight of Fear

This has been such a fun series to teach so far!

I have been teaching through the different fears in life that weigh us down, paralyze us, and keep us from all that God has for us.

The fear of failure.

The fear of bad things happening.

The fear of inadequacy.

The fear of missing out.

We started the series off by looking at the account of Jesus calling out Peter to join Him in walking on water.

Matthew 14:28-33

Then Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.”

29 “Yes, come,” Jesus said.

So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. 30 But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted.

31 Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,” Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?”

32 When they climbed back into the boat, the wind stopped. 33 Then the disciples worshiped him. “You really are the Son of God!” they exclaimed.

Peter’s problem was that he took his eyes off of Jesus.  He began to focus on the waves and wind and became terrified.  Fear literally weighed him down and he began to sink.

This gives us the main theme for the series: “We don’t fix fear by fixing ourselves…we fix our eyes on God.”

This series is not about developing a three-step process to overcoming fears or developing coping skills to work through lives tough moments.  There are many Biblical examples and principles available to handle fear in this way.  However, I was led to fix our eyes on God.

In reality, this is a series about God’s character.

When we fear failure…we look to God’s patience and faithfulness.

When we fear bad things happening…we look to God’s goodness.

When we struggle with the fear of inadequacy…we look to God as our creator.

When we struggle with the fear of missing out…we look to a God who is all knowing and all powerful.

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